"WHY CAN'T MEN JUST BE...MEN!"
I said it loudly. In fact I'm pretty sure people walking near us turned to stare.
But seriously? Why can't they! You may wonder what I mean by this and perhaps it would be best explained if you knew that the conversation leading up to this comment had a lot to do with men being one or more (usually more) of the following:
1. wimps (harsh but true)
2. non-committal / indecisive
3. aimless and drifting through life trying to "find themselves"
4. on the couch playing the latest xBox game (is xBox still cool? I have no idea)
5. lazy and unwilling to pursue a woman-properly
I realize #5 might seem a bit archaic and call me old fashioned if you want-I'm sure I've been called worse-but I want to be freaking pursued dang it! And as I told my friend yesterday, no, I don't mean laying on a chaise eating grapes, fanning myself and listening to suitors sing or compose poems in my honor. I'm not Cleopatra -my aspirations are far more simple. I would be perfectly content with a MAN who calls when he says he will (and yes, I mean actually CALLS, not texts, not emails, not Facebooks), who actually wants to be with me, who is take charge and respectful and confident and...manly. Which I know is a vague descriptor but for the life of me I don't know how else to describe it. A man who takes care of his family, who has some goals, some vision of how he wants his life to go. Who is kind and loving yet willing to defend you and protect you. And, in my experience at least, that kind of man is something that is really lacking in our society today. At least in guys in my age range. And I blame that on "Guyland"-a magical place where men of my generation seem to have set up residence permanently. It seems to be a place where the mindset, expectations, goals and activities are the same as they are for your average 13-17 year old male.